For a very long time, my entire life has had a radius of about a few kilometers.

I live in Bari, a place where the sea is always there to remind you of where the land ends. But for me, the real boundary wasn’t the coast; it was the door of my room. As a programmer and designer, my life is built around micro-routines. The gentle hum of the PC fan, the predictable glow of my monitors, the comfort of knowing exactly where every object in my room belongs.

To me, the world outside was something to be consumed through a screen. I’d spend hours browsing vintage Japanese personal homepages, reading travel logs from the early 2000s, or clicking through random blogs in a webring. It felt like traveling, but without the friction. Without the fear.

But a few weeks ago, I did something that went entirely against my programming. I applied for a passport, booked a flight, and crossed the Italian border for the first time in my life.

Destination: Nuremberg, Germany. And honestly? It was terrifying (；⌣_⌣)

The Weight of the Departure (｡•́︿•̀｡)

In the days leading up to the flight, the anxiety was a constant, low-frequency hum in the back of my mind. It felt like a compile error that I couldn’t debug. My brain kept asking: Why are you doing this? You have everything you need right here. Why leave the safety of the loop?

Getting to the airport felt like watching a movie of myself from a third-person perspective. I felt like an imposter. Everyone else seemed to know how to travel; they had the right luggage, they moved through security with practiced ease, they belonged. I felt like an NPC that had wandered out of its designated zone.

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| [!] System Warning: Comfort Zone Exceeded            |
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|  Status: Out of Bounds                               |
|  Anxiety Level: High                                 |
|  Current Location: Departing Bari (BRI)              |
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When the plane took off and the Italian coastline shrivelled into a thin line below the clouds, a strange sense of grief washed over me. I was leaving the only country I had ever known, the only language I spoke fluently, the only air I knew how to breathe.

Lost in Translation and Space (；⌣_⌣)

I won’t give you a tourist guide of Nuremberg. I won’t write about the castle, the historic churches, or the museum exhibits. You can find all of that on Wikipedia. To be honest, I didn’t experience the city as a typical tourist. I experienced it as someone trying to navigate a new environment while dealing with chronic social anxiety.

Walking through the streets of Nuremberg, the first thing that hit me was the linguistic boundary. For the first time, I couldn’t understand the chatter around me. The signs on the shops were strings of characters that my brain couldn’t parse automatically. I felt mute. Ordering a simple coffee became a high-stress puzzle of English and clumsy gestures.

Every interaction reminded me of how far I was from my shell.

                  [ Bari: Home ]
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                         ▼  (First Flight)
             [ Nuremberg: Unknown ]
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        ┌────────────────────────────────┐
        │  • Cold air, unfamiliar sky    │
        │  • A quiet, warm anchor        │
        │  • Co-op mode: Facing the city │
        └────────────────────────────────┘

I spent a lot of time just walking, letting the cold German wind hit my face. It’s a different kind of cold than the damp winter air of Bari. It felt clean, but sharp. I looked at the old timber-framed houses, the dark stone walls, and the gray sky. It was beautiful, but it was a heavy, melancholic beauty. I felt completely detached, like a single pixel that had drifted to the wrong coordinates on a screen.

A Safe Harbor: Facing Anxiety in Good Company (っ•‿•)っ

The hardest part of traveling with social anxiety isn’t the walking; it’s the stopping.

But during this journey, I wasn’t entirely on my own. I was staying at a friend’s place. For privacy reasons, I won’t mention her name here—she deserves her quiet space on the internet—but having her there was my anchor in this foreign storm.

Having a friend to return to made the unfamiliar streets of Nuremberg feel less like a hostile environment and more like a level we were exploring in co-op mode. It was a safe harbor that bridged the gap between my closed room in Bari and the vast, unknown German streets.

Even when the language barrier felt like an unhandled exception or when the cold wind made me want to shrink back into my shell, I had someone to share the quiet moments with. We cooked simple meals, talked about the old days of the web, and just existed. Facing my fears with someone I trusted didn’t make the social anxiety disappear, but it made it manageable.

Traveling doesn’t cure anxiety; it just changes its background scenery, but sharing that scenery with someone you trust makes all the difference.

But as the days went by, that heavy feeling started to shift. It didn’t disappear, but it transformed into a quiet acceptance. I realized that feeling lost wasn’t a bug—it was the feature. By stripping away all the familiar inputs of my life and leaning on a friend, I was forced to just… exist. Without my screens, without my code, without my routines.

The Return (っ•‿•)っ

Now, I am back in Bari. I’m sitting at my desk, typing this post on the mechanical keyboard I missed so much. The hum of the PC is here, the monitors are glowing, and everything is exactly where I left it.

And yet, the room feels a little smaller than it did before.

I didn’t return from Nuremberg as a changed man. My social anxiety is still here. My tendency to isolate myself is still here. But I proved to myself that the boundaries I’ve built around my life are not immutable walls. They are just settings that can be adjusted, and sharing the adventure with a friend proved that I don’t have to face the world alone.

It was challenging, it was melancholic, and it was hard. But it was the first time I saw the horizon with my own eyes, not through a glass screen. And for that, I am glad I went.

Until the next departure, wherever the coordinates lead (◡‿◡✿)

Biagio